Dilemma in Decisions
All of us encounter dilemma in taking decisions in life. we take the advise and do the action. If the outcome was favourable we are happy and feel proud of the outcome too.
However if the outcome is un-favourable, we are unhappy and also blame the advisor, the situations or the people involved in the action.
Face the Reality: If the outcome is un-favourable, by being unhappy or blaming the advisor, the situations or the people involved in the action, will not change the unfavourable into favourable. You are the one who has to squarely deal with it. That is the reality.
It is good to ask for advise. But, who is a good advisor?. The one who gives a clear picture of both the favourable (Sweet) and unfavourable (bitter) outcome of the action is the advisor.
Face the Reality: Take advices, but dont give decision making power to others, because it is you, who will be dealing with the outcome of the action.
Final Decision making logic: After talking to many of your well wishers or counsellers, you are clear with the favourable and unfavourable outcomes of the two choices in executing the action. This is where many people think the more they consult others, they get more confused in making the decision, or in simple words, the dilemma is stronger than before.
On what basis will you choose an action?. It is common that we all look at the advantages we get by choosing and executing an action. Seldom we realize that for any action we perform, there are always two outcomes. One that is sweet favourable (obvious and immediate without time delay) and another is bitter unfavourable (not obvious, comes later). So every action has these two sweet and bitter and sweet outcomes in different doses.
In other words, in all actions we do, we have loss and gain. We will lose in one level and gain in another level. Which is our comfort zone, we have to choose it and we will soley will experience the effect of that choice.
All gains will make us happy, but the loss will over shadow the happiness of the gain we achieve. Instead, a wiser person will take the side of the loss and enjoy the happiness that accompanies. This is why most of us we have possessions we have, but not happy, because gain and loss is a package of life's action (karma). Every winner loses something to gain something. Every loser also gains something. So Life is fair game (Universal Selftual pattern 2017)
Example, you have a choice of doing action A or action B. Both the actions A and B will have two outcomes (sweet and bitter). Decision should be based on taking into account not only the action that gives an obvious favourable result, but also the hidden un-favourable outcomes also. Since all the results of actions comes with a sweet and bitter outcome in different proportions, it is natural to choose an action that appears sweet. However, the bitterness that comes along will over-shadow the sweetness , unltimately we will be unhappy.
Uni5 Mantra to make a decision: Choose an action, which will give an outcome with a bitterness that you can handle, then you can also enjoy the sweetness that comes along with it. If you choose an action that gives an outcome with high dose of bitterness, then you will not be able to enjoy the happiness that comes with that action. Ultimately we all do actions for one reason, to be happy.
The five fingers in our hand will symbolically show us the five levels of happiness with its time duration to help make our decisions. Higher the level, longer will be the duration of happiness enjoyed. This is the Uni5-Mantra to perform actions in life. This is the Self-Guru or God, present in everyone.
A practical message to take decisions is given in Uni5 Sakthi Gita.
Reference: Based on the Book - Universal Self pattern (2017 Publication)